Letting People In On Your Dreams

People love to comment on your dream… like they know better than you what you should be doing with your life. I firmly believe that by the time you are 20 years old, you should make your own decisions on the direction you want your life to go in. And then don’t tell anyone!

Everyone sees the world through their own prism. So when you tell someone about your dream, they comment on it like it is THEIR dream, and they critique it based on whether they think THEY would go down that path. Their words place doubt in your mind, making you less certain about your decision to follow your dream. After you have made the decision and have made it most of the way down the path, THEN tell whomever you like. At that point, you’re at the “no turning back” point and their words won’t weigh as much.

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The Vibeology MixCast "R&B For The Hip-Hop Generation™" October 24th, 2011

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Okay, I'm back! A little extended hiatus… settled into my new place in Everett, MA (I live on the North Shore… weird) and I'm well rested and ret-to-go!

Here is another edition of the Vibeology MixCast, yours truly "Big Chicago" Reggie Beas (@DJReggieBeas) in the mix… thank you for all your suggestions on how to make this better for you. I'm feeling more comfortable on the mic also, getting back into the groove I had on the air at Hot 97.7, 97.7 WILD-FM and Hot 102.9. I'm looking forward to working on a weekly schedule so every Monday you'll get a fresh edition of the Vibeology MixCast.

All I ask is if you like what I do, pass on the link to this post to your friends. Thank you for your support!

Segment 1

Best Thing I Never Had (Lil Jon & DJ Kontrol Remix) Beyoncé (@beyonce)

Only Wanna Give It To You Elle Varner (@ellevarner)

You, Yourself And You Tiffany Villarreal (@1misstiff)

Champagne Life Ne-Yo (@neyocompound)

Attention (f/Raphael Saadiq) Kelis (@iamkelis)

Every Day Of The Week Jade

Trouble Bei Maejor (@beimaejor)

Stay Ne-Yo (@neyocompound)

Someone To Love Me (Naked) Mary J. Blige (@maryblige)

Holdin' You Down Jazmine Sullivan (@jsullivanmusic)

Too Easy Tyrese (@tyrese)

Segment 2

She Ain't You (f/SWV) Chris Brown (@chrisbrown)

Back In The Day Erykah Badu (@fatbellybella)

Stay Together (f/Jaheim) Ledisi (@ledisi)

Lonely Girl DJ Rogers Jr.

Crazy Love Ne-Yo (@neyocompound)

Repercussions Lauryn Hill (@mshillmnvgtrgt)

Vibin' Boyz II Men (@boyziimen)

Make It Last DJ Jazzy Jeff & Ayah (@djjazzyjeff215) (@ayahmusic)

Me And U Montell Jordan (@montelljordan)

Segment 3 (Vibeology Sidestage)

Groove Me Guy (@teddyriley1)

I Like Guy (@theaaronhall)

Do Me Bell Biv Devoe (@bellbivdevoe90)

If I'm Not Your Lover (f/Slick Rick) Al B. Sure (@officialalbsure)

Here We Go Again Portrait

I Want Her Keith Sweat (@ogkeithsweat)

Why You Getting Funky On Me Today (@bigbubtoday)

I Found Lovin Jeff Redd (@therealjeffredd)

I'm Dreamin' Christopher Williams

Remember The Time Michael Jackson

Segment 4

So In Love (f/Anthony Hamilton) Jill Scott (@missjillscott)

Already Taken Trey Songz (@treysongz)

Just In Case Jaheim (@officialjaheim)

Givemorelove Musiq Soulchild (@musiqsoulchild)

Hey Mr. DJ Zhane

6 AM f/Lalah Hathaway Rahsaan Patterson (@mynameis2long)

Good Life (f/Faith Evans) Funkmaster Flex (@funkmasterflex)

The One (f/Drake) Mary J. Blige (@maryblige)

Betcha'll Never Find Chantay Savage

Anything (f/Swizz Beatz) Musiq Soulchild (@musiqsoulchild)

 

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New Music Alert or I'm Doing My Snoopy Dance!

I love it when I stumble upon a song and it demands my attention. Don't know who @dee1music is, but this just came across my computer and it is my new favorite song. Mostly because this is exactly how I feel about the many females who have come and gone in my life (or, in reality, have come and put me in the friend zone). I've had love songs that tapped into my thoughts, but never a hip-hop song. This may not be a hit, but it resonants with me.

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One Great DJ is better than 4 Average DJs or DJ Roulette

I hate it when I go to one of my favorite night spots and the regular DJ has been replaced with another DJ who sucks is not doing the job. I would much rather hear my favorite DJ be lazy, playing the same great songs again, than DJ Minute Mix acting like a live action iPod on hyper-shuffle.

A great DJ sets the tone for the night. That consistent vibe is what is missing when you keep switching DJs. Let me make this clear… a night doesn't become great because of multiple DJs, but a great promoter or promotion can overcome inconsistent DJs and make a great night. An iconic night marries a great DJ with a great promoter… that is the holy grail every nightclub is looking for.

The key to having one resident DJ is having someone who can switch up the music every week without the quality suffering. The reason why promoters use multiple DJs is because 1) DJs get lazy and play the same songs in the same way every week; and 2) DJs can't ask for more money because there are always 2-4 DJs waiting in the wings to take that spot for the same money you're turning down (promoters don't want you to realize that, DJs).

It's easy to fall back on the routines and sets you know already work, but that's the mark of a great DJ, to be able to keep people interested week after week. Yes, you do have to play the hits, and yes, we all are pulling from the same basic music, but instead of playing Poison, play Do Me Baby. Instead of playing Award Tour, play Electric Relaxation. Instead of playing Rock The Boat, play Back and Forth.

(Easy DJ Tip) One easy way to keep from getting into a rut, playing the same songs over and over again, is going to hear other DJs spin. What, you're too good to listen to other DJs? They ain't got nothing on you? Doesn't matter. Go listen to other DJs, and steal see what songs work for them. Add those songs to your mental rolodex of songs. 

(Advanced DJ Tip) Clear the dance floor by playing a hot new song that you know your crowd doesn't know, but will want to soon. Or you can play a throwback that nobody has heard in years. If you trust your talent, you will be able to get them back on the dance floor easily. But remember, there is a difference between playing a hot new song in the middle of a hot set and throwing a grenade, killing your dancefloor for 15 minutes or more. A great DJ knows how to recover from a grenade… once again, if you know your music and trust your abilities, you can move people from the sidelines, to the dancefloor, to the bar and around again at will.

 

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Friday Funnys or I'm Cryin' Ova Here

This is simply the funniest thing I have seen all year! DO NOT watch this at work if you can't laugh out loud. I am not responsible for you getting fired.

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My Favorite Blogs or Procrastination At Its Finest

One of the best and worst things about the Internet is that everyone is at your fingertips. I have signed up for so many self-help, informational, "be a better man" sites, that my email is completely clogged up… and I end up only reading a select few. Google Reader is even worse, because I get full news stories every minute of every day. I'm so backed up that I just found out that Kim Kardashian just got engaged! I'm just playing, but only slightly.

But here are 3 blogs/sites that I read religiously and am excited about. Some are about the life I want to live and some are just escapism. But all are cool enough for me to clue you in about.

Black 'n Bougie

I absolutely love this blog. I understand that in the Blackiverse "bougie" has a terribly negative connotation, but Michele Grant @onechele celebrates bougie as upscale, upwardly-mobile, socially-savvy Black folks. I'm with it.

Grantland

Bill Simmons @sportsguy33 (pictured) is my favorite writer on ESPN (aside from Jemele Hill, who gets my vote for more than just writing ;-)). He became so successful that when the idea for Grantland came up, ESPN let him run with it. I must admit, the website design overwhelms me most of the time (it's not very easy to figure out what stories I missed). But every time I'm there, one of his many world-class writers is shedding light on a topic, whether related to sports or not, in a way that is enlightening.

I Will Teach You To Be Rich

Crazy title, right? Let's be real, if it was easy to be rich, we'd all be driving around in Maybachs. But Ramit Sethi @ramit is not handing you a magic elixir to drink, asking you to swallow blue and red pills or passing you the combination to the secret lair of the Illuminati. He is giving you systems, scripts, and new ways of thinking about how to find and get your dream job and how to maximize the money made from that job. He gets you to answer hard questions about exactly what you want to do, and gives you proven ways to attain it. But he makes no bones about it… it is hard work. His theme for 2011 was "hustling"… that doesn't sound like he's opening up the back door to the bank, does he? But that's why I'm in it 99%, and seeing if that extra 1% is worth it (you'll understand when you go to the site).

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The Vibeology MixCast "R&B For The Hip-Hop Generation™" September 26th, 2011

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1. Beautiful—Noel Gourdin
2. Joy—Blackstreet
3. Say Aah vs. Step In The Name Of Love (BeasMix)—DJ Reggie Beas
4. 4evermore f/Algebra—Anthony David
5. Hey Daddy (Daddy's Home)—Usher
6. Only You—112
7. Holdin' You Down—Jazmine Sullivan
8. Joy—Ledisi
9. Sending My Love—Zhane
10. Heard It All Before—Sunshine Anderson
11. Freaky In The Club—R. Kelly
12. Champagne Life—Ne-Yo
13. Don't Mess With My Man—Lucy Pearl
14. Borrow You—Eric Roberson
15. When You Get Home—Montell Jordan
16. Sumthin' Sumthin'—Maxwell
17. Walking—Mary Mary
18. Let Me Love You—Lalah Hathaway
19. Sweet Thing—Mary J. Blige
20. Everything—Mary J. Blige
21. Love No Limit—Mary J. Blige
22. Love No Limit (Remix)—Mary J. Blige
23. I Can Love You—Mary J. Blige
24. Mary Jane (All Night Long)—Mary J. Blige
25. My Love—Mary J. Blige
26. I Love You—Mary J. Blige
27. Reminisce—Mary J. Blige
28. Reminisce (Remix)—Mary J. Blige
29. Love Is All We Need—Mary J. Blige
30. Family Affair—Mary J. Blige
31. Be Happy—Mary J. Blige
32. Be Happy (Remix)—Mary J. Blige
33. Oooh—Mary J. Blige
34. Not Today—Mary J. Blige
35. You Don't Have To Worry—Mary J. Blige
36. All That I Can Say—Mary J. Blige
37. You Remind Me—Mary J. Blige
38. You Remind Me (Remix)—Mary J. Blige
39. Enough Cryin'—Mary J. Blige
40. Real Love—Mary J. Blige
41. Real Love (Remix)—Mary J. Blige
42. You Bring Me Joy—Mary J. Blige
43. Back 2 Life 2001 (f/DJ Clue)—Mary J. Blige
44. MVP—Mary J. Blige
45. The One—Mary J. Blige
46. Just Fine—Mary J. Blige
47. Just Fine (Treat 'Em Right Remix)—Mary J. Blige
48. My LIfe—Mary J. Blige

 

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